tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post2601331132186116172..comments2023-05-17T10:32:27.513-04:00Comments on Diary of a Zookeeper: Some for 21: ConfessionsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03309625075040251483noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post-3089675286355356392010-10-30T16:57:39.546-04:002010-10-30T16:57:39.546-04:00I sooooo did not intend to spark a debate with thi...I sooooo did not intend to spark a debate with this post, lol!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309625075040251483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post-11166284984401533412010-10-30T16:57:18.403-04:002010-10-30T16:57:18.403-04:00Patti,
No, no, no! You do not need to delete your...Patti,<br />No, no, no! You do not need to delete your comment at all! I actually wrote a whole apology/clarification post this morning, but then I deleted it because I didn't think it came out right. But in a nutshell, I was trying to say exactly what you said--that some of those things don't bother me because I am able to look past the words and at the person/attitude instead. But I absolutely do not think anyone is WRONG if they are offended by the words, and I'm sure you agree with that too. Words can be very hurtful, but I was just explaining that those particular words--when not used in a HURTFUL WAY--don't bother me. I was just expressing my opinion/struggle, and I so appreciate your point of view. And our shared pity party. :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03309625075040251483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post-6550900249446627892010-10-30T16:39:21.653-04:002010-10-30T16:39:21.653-04:00... and I meant eliminate...hit publish too fast.... and I meant eliminate...hit publish too fast.Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17285336545936110323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post-35497361961473075722010-10-30T16:37:43.887-04:002010-10-30T16:37:43.887-04:00Katy- should I delete my previous comment? I do NO...Katy- should I delete my previous comment? I do NOT want to offend anyone in any way. I just have always felt that the spirit behind words should be considered when using them, or elimiating them. My mother says "downs babies" all the time- and she spent her life being a special ed teacher. The fact that she doesn't use people-first language does not in any way mean she doesn't think our kids are people first.<br />Just as when I say my toilet is retarded because it got clogged for the 10th time that week- in no way do I think my toilet is connected in any way shape or form to any individual...anywhere. It is a word that is describing what my toilet is.<br />This is just my personal feeling- but we're not going to change the world by eliminating certain words. If it's in people's hearts to hate others who are of lesser capability than themselves- they will find a way to express it. Changing the word does not change the heart. We can spread the word to end the word all we want- unless people get a revelation from God that our children are of value- they will continue to treat them with disrespect. And they don't need a word to do it.<br />Just my two cents, but I totally understand if you want to delete my comment.<br />hugs.Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17285336545936110323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post-6075215051488096882010-10-30T15:23:40.847-04:002010-10-30T15:23:40.847-04:00Sending you lots of love & care, Katy.
The &q...Sending you lots of love & care, Katy.<br /><br />The "r" word REALLY bothered me growing up and early in adulthood because my oldest younger brother was often called that (in a derogatory way) growing up - he wasn't "R" nor is his adult life impaired in any way by his diagnosis early in life (Cerebral Palsy) - in fact to the best of my knowledge nobody but family knows.<br /><br />Lamb & Monkey will likely run into that as they get older - and as their mom it's going to be up to you to figure out what to do when they do. To this day I still haven't told my parents that the reason that, as a 4th grader, I beat up a classmate was because he made a derogatory "r" comment about my little brother (then a kindergarten student). I never beat anyone up again for making a comment like that, and I don't regret not telling my parents. But I do know that my brother's diagnosis was something that we (DH & I) really worried about when we were pg with our Roo ... <br /><br />That probably didn't help you feel any better, did it? Sorry. Sometimes reality bites. And some day Lamb is going to be that 4th grader with a Kinder brother ... <br /><br /><3 ya!<br />Mar (from my new StudentAccountant blog)Marhttp://studentaccountant.wordpress.com/2010/10/30/welcom/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post-74730873505873547872010-10-29T19:45:04.320-04:002010-10-29T19:45:04.320-04:00I am so impressed with your blog and the time you ...I am so impressed with your blog and the time you take to do it, this will be so wonderful for you to look back and remembering your daily struggles, and feelings... Wish I had the drive to do it:)<br />I have a couple thoughts (which I know you would love to hear:p) I am one of those mothers who are horribly offended by "down's kids" & "retard"... I see my son as a beautiful, perfect precious life, not a downs kids.. I think it would be the equivalent to people asking: "how's that down's kid Joey doing?" I am guessing that its all a process of your journey & I don't want you to feel bad I am just explaining the other side which I'm sure you understand. I think using the "r" word at home or not taking offense will change when your baby comes home in tears after being called that. I share so many of the same feelings & thoughts as you and enjoy reading yours... Keep them coming!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post-88751253335814147732010-10-29T17:07:04.195-04:002010-10-29T17:07:04.195-04:00Great post! My mother in laws favorite thing to sa...Great post! My mother in laws favorite thing to say when talking about Sutter is "he's so neat"...what the hell does that mean...neat?! Then again, she was also the same person who asked me when they would re-test him to see if "the down's" went away....somehow this woman has a maters degree in English! <br /><br />He's a cute baby and it looks like he's doing great!!!Wrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12859270873501744398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post-9480830459892277752010-10-29T16:34:11.280-04:002010-10-29T16:34:11.280-04:00Love you, friend (have you noticed I'm a broke...Love you, friend (have you noticed I'm a broken record these days?). Thanks for your transparency.erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06959833839750315809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2296867968408174746.post-51418675766430015362010-10-29T15:08:46.449-04:002010-10-29T15:08:46.449-04:00Amen to all your thoughts as well:)
Seriously, Kat...Amen to all your thoughts as well:)<br />Seriously, Katy- your little guy is SO ADORABLE, he takes my breath away. How do you get anything done???<br />I absolutely hate when people say "those kids are always happy, etc." So lame. AND if I were ever to use the word in public (I shamefully adimit I still do at home...only directed at inanimate objects, I promise!!)..i would say "That is so retarded!" to those kind of comments. Like our babies are zombies or something!! If I posted this on my blog I would kill my readship, so hopefully you get my weird sense of humor;)<br />Let's have a virtual pity party together, want to???Lol <br />hugs to you today !!Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17285336545936110323noreply@blogger.com